If you think about it, every situation is slightly different. One time you might meet a woman in the morning at coffee, and another time you might meet a woman at a club at 1 in the morning.
If you wait too long to call her back, I think you run the risk of seeming like you're just using a technique on her and you come across as a player who's trying to do your thing on her.
When deciding how long to wait before you call or email, I think it's important to ask yourself this question:
"What will likely increase the attraction in this situation?"
Here are a couple of ideas I have used with great success:
1) Email instead of calling first. I personally email the next day. I'll start with a charming email to get the conversation started and then tell her that I'm going to call in a day or two.
This has the effect of making contact with her relatively quickly, but still creating anticipation because you haven't actually talked.
2) Call the next day, and make a joke about the situation. I might call and say, "Yeah, I was watching Swingers and they said to wait three days to call, but I was kind of in more of a one day mood..."
If you didn't get her email address and you must use the phone, just do your best to avoid being average.
I personally believe that our attention spans as humans are getting shorter and shorter. We have more and more information coming in from television, newspapers and other sources – and we're getting cultural A.D.D. I think that if you wait too long, you're risking either being seen as using a technique, or risking being forgotten altogether.
But if you make the opposite mistake and call too soon (for instance a few hours later), you run the risk of being seen as a needy Wuss who has no life.
I have written about why it's important to leave immediately after getting a woman's email and/or number.
How long you should wait to call her back is a natural extension of this.
As a matter of fact, if you get a woman's email/number and then you keep coming over to talk to her, it can almost be seen as waiting 5 minutes to call her.
There's no anticipation, and it says all the wrong things.
A couple of other quick pointers for when you're making that first call:
1) Be busy. If you're going to ask her to join you for tea or something similar, make sure you mention two times that you're busy for every one time that you're available.
2) Don't linger on the phone. Make that first call short and to the point. If you stay on the phone for more than a few minutes, you're running the risk of getting into a normal "What do you do?", "Where do you live?", "Where did you go to school?" conversation. Avoid this.
To summarize, when in doubt wait a day or so to contact her again.
But more importantly, think about the situation in terms of anticipation and attraction, so when you do make contact it creates the correct context.
And now I have another question...
Do you enjoy learning the psychology of how to create attraction with women? And do you enjoy learning the psychology of how to create more internal confidence... and how to overcome your "Inner Game" psychological issues?
Yeah, me too.
In fact, I think that the psychology of success with women and dating is the most interesting part.
Source: http://www.ArticlePros.com/author.php?David DeAngelo
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