Family relationships are important and children should grow up in a loving and supportive family unit. However, difficulties in relationships are often common, such as constant arguing, and physical abuse which can result in parents finding it difficult to live together so they eventually separate or divorce.
Children are seriously affected by this experience. They often feel upset, worried and sad. The way in which the child copes with this situation varies depending on how the parents separate, the age of the child and how much support they get from their parents, family and friends.
Children often feel angry at one or both parents or guilty as they may think that they are responsible for the separation. They may worry about the future, often feeling unfamiliar and unsafe, especially if they have to move homes or move in with a new family. These often lead to children feeling a sense of loss and rejection.
It is important to open all lines of communication so that children can talk about what is happening with their parents and are able to ask questions about it. Parents often feel that children are too young to understand what is going on. However, children can sense when things are not right and not knowing exactly what is happening may create a lot of confusion and worry. If you feel that you are unable to talk to one or both parents, then try speaking to a teacher, relative or close friend who can support you and help you talk to your parents. Carrying on with your usual routine such as going to school and engaging in activities also helps. Spending time with family and friends who can reassure and support whilst parents resolve their differences will help alleviate some of the worry and distract you from what can be a very stressful time.
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