“How do you get a man to listen?” Getting a man to listen is an age old dilemma. Part of the answer is timing. Jumping on him with a pressing question as soon as he gets home from work will almost never yield you the results you desire. Likewise, trying to talk to him when he is stressed out or in the middle of watching his favorite television program is not a wise choice. Try talking to him when he is in a relaxed or otherwise good mood. A discussion over a nice meal could do worlds of good as he will be relaxed and better able to focus on you. The other part of the answer is to make important to him what is important to you. If you are bringing up the same old problem in the same nagging tone he will tune you out. Yes, we know that getting him to fix the plumbing or patch the drywall like he promised a year ago is important to you, but why should it be important to him? He probably only sees the house a few hours a day, and if the stove, the toilet and the television are working, everything else may be secondary to him. So, the key is to devise your argument in a way that makes it important to him. Example: Fixing the lock on a door may not seem that important to him. However, when you bring up the point that your two-year-old was able to unlock it and make a break for the street, your request suddenly takes on new meaning. Example: Your relationship may seem “just fine” to him until he realizes that this time you might actually leave him. Finally, how you say what you want him to hear is just as important, if not more than what you say. By all means, do not nag, scream, or accuse. He will either tune you out or you will end up in a screaming match. Picture the conversation going well ahead of time. Know what you need to convey and say it in a relaxed, even tone. If in the middle of the conversation you find yourself getting agitated, take a bathroom break. Having to pee is always an acceptable excuse to leave the room. If he still resists, say that you think you are about to get your period. He is less likely to argue with that. Go to the bathroom, take a few deep breaths and get back in there when you are calmer. If you do just these three things, your chances of having him actually listen to you and discuss what is on your mind will greatly improve as his response changes from "Yeah, yeah, yeah," to " Why didn't you tell me all this before?" Try not to throttle him at this point and simply appreciate the mutual understanding. Caterina Christakos is the author of The Seduction Game for Women. For free dating and seduction tips sign up for your free newsletter at : http://www.seductiondiva.com
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