Here we will sum up the signs of anger, because even though everyone is different, there are certain comparable signs that denote this strong emotion.
Sometimes, an angry person will verbally or physically assault others. They are sometimes prone to violent outbursts, often involving hurting others or destroying things.
An angry person is often aggressive, and might complain a lot about seemingly everything. They often engage in malicious behavior toward others, retaliating or striking out against others.
People who are angry are often antisocial, with an incapability to relate to their peers. Often, they disparage people, say cruel or unkind things, or hurt people to make themselves feel better.
Their lack of dealing with the anger problems leads to the inability to trust others. They exhibit suspicious, judgmental, or jealous characteristics toward others. Angry people might try to undermine others, and be disruptive if they do not agree with something. An angry person is not pleasant to be around, and they desperately need help.
Recently I heard about a woman that had serious anger problems. For seemingly no reason she would react to what most people would consider minor issues such as a child eating too much or eating something that she envied.
Something like this was enough to bring about an irrational reaction. Sometimes she was mild in her acts, and other times she was out of control. In most cases, she had no basis for her behavior; however, there was an underlying source, as is usually the case.
The woman did in fact display anti-social behaviors, and she often conveyed odd thinking patterns. For example, she would say that all men are pigs. She also talked about leading men on; leading them down to her basement and having alligators eat them alive. The woman was unbalanced and very ill.
Now she was diagnosed with Bipolar ? Manic Depression, and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder. After careful examination Posttraumatic Stress was dismissed and the diagnosis was that of exaggerated, anti-social traits.
According to her, the cause for her anger was that the many men she had been involved with had mistreated her. This was only part of the reason, and the truth surfaced when she talked more about her life. She had been adopted as a child; therefore, she felt a sense of abandonment.
The origin here is understandable, since she most likely resented her parents for giving her up for adoption. Even if the parents? reasons were valid, she rebuffs when prompted to hear the other side of the story. Since the woman?s symptoms were ongoing, the treatment would probably never work since she was a victim of her own mind and in denial.
It was obvious that the woman had anger manifesting in her own behaviors. She performed illegal acts, such as writing bad checks. Therefore, the symptoms she endured were partially of her own choice. She produced her anger and paranoia; therefore her anger is her own responsibility.
However, angry people will often undermine others. For example, an angry individual might say something like: try these diet pills; they will help you take off some weight. The angry person is well aware that the other individual has a sore spot about their weight, even though she is normal weight. Therefore, the angry person is trying to disparage the individual by undermining her self-esteem.
An angry person will also seek attention and use damaging words. For example, an angry person might say, ?I am fat?. The angry person is waiting for you to disagree, and offer compliments. The best thing to do in this situation is to ignore the angry person. Because denial is at the source of the problem, no matter how many times you try to convince the person otherwise, they will not believe you.
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