Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is very effective when used to let go of inappropriate anger, regardless of the cause or length of time it has been present.
Anger arises under a few different circumstances:
1. When injustice is perceived
2. When our personal limits or boundaries have been violated
3. When an intolerable situation has been created in which we have been involved.
When anger persists for longer than necessary, say, many years, even after the offending person dies, even after we rationally know there is no good reason to feel angry any longer, it is certainly time to do something about it.
EFT is used to manage and eliminate anger that does not serve any purpose, or has persisted an inappropriate time, or is personally destructive. After an anger is identified as a core issue of an emotional problem it is usually easily neutralized by EFT tapping on the mental image related to the anger associated with a person or particular situation, being as specific as possible.
As an example, rather than using the set up phrase, “Even though I am terribly angry with my husband…’, it probably would be more effective to say use this set up phrase, “Even though I am furious with Jim for staying out until 2AM with his bowling buddies, and then lying that he didn't call me because his cell phone battery was dead…”
Another example, instead of the limited and general, “Even though I am angry how my boss talks to me…”, a more effective way to approach this kind of situation is something specific like, “Even though I am so angry at Mr. Tillman that my heart is pounding every time I think about the way he raised his voice at me in front of Carol just because I was 10 minutes late coming to work in a snow storm…” This, and other specific examples of how Mr. Tillman makes you angry are what you are after.
It is often helpful to pretend the person you are angry with is sitting in front of you while you do your EFT tapping about the anger. At this time freely and fully express all your anger – or any other emotion you feel while tapping. With just a few rounds of EFT tapping, the anger will cease and the negative memory will be cleared.
Most often when anger does not clear after doing multiple rounds of nicely crafted and specific EFT tapping, it is my experience the reason is often that the person finds the anger as a useful way to hold the offending person accountable for the injustice. It is as though the person who holds onto the anger feels that the other person is being punished or penalized by their anger; that letting go of the anger would allow the offending party to “get away with" the wrongful deed or omission.
In another way of explaining and dealing with anger that cannot be released, it is common for people to feel that if the anger was released it would mean that the problem, the transgression, the harmful act somehow "didn't matter." People often feel that by forgiving and releasing an anger they are saying that the harmful act was really no big deal, that it was actually “OK” after all, and that perhaps it was wrong to feel harmed and have been angry in the first place. So in holding onto the anger, they feel that it is the only way to hold the person accountable and exert some form of "punishment.". The dilemma always is that the person holding onto the anger eventually understands that the only person actually being affected by the anger is the anger-holder.
If a difficult time is encountered releasing anger with EFT tapping, look deeper within to see if this anger is based on an issue of "cosmic injustice" that is preventing your progress with Emotional Freedom Technique.
Source: http://www.ArticlePros.com/author.php?Theodore Herazy
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