Is the meaning of this article’s title clear to you? If yes, terrific; if not, you’ll appreciate some tips to assist you to not only understand it but put it into practice.
What often happens to us is if we experience something once, we project that experience onto similar experiences . . . before they happen. We hear comments from people like, “Oh, I KNOW how THIS is going to go,” before it happens. Maybe we hear, “I said it would go like this,” or “I knew this would happen.” And the connection between anticipating a result and experiencing it is seldom or never made by the person.
The fact is, we can’t control every event or how people behave. But if you’re going someplace or doing something and expect a bad experience, don’t be surprised when you get it.
What about this? If you want to have a good experience, be a good experience. What does this mean?
It doesn’t mean you pretend anything, like being all happy and peppy. You can decide to be fully authentic (completely present in each moment), be an observer of yourself and others, ask questions from curiosity rather than trying to force behaviors or outcomes.
There are numerous ways you can be a good experience for yourself and others. Is the person at the register ringing up your items at the store not smiling or grumpy? How far do you think a kind word from you might go? If the person doesn’t lighten or brighten up from your smile or kind comment, that’s not about you. Feel good about taking a positive action. The first step to having a good experience is to choose it, then be it. Be it for yourself; others are responsible for how they perceive their experiences.
Don’t feel successful? Maybe you need to take your definition of success to a deeper level. People with self-esteem issues often neglect to recognize and celebrate their successes, which are many and of all sizes. Verbally pat yourself on the back for even so much as showing up for an appointment on time. We ignore the little successes. Usually this is because our little successes weren’t supported by others while growing up. Okay, maybe that happened. Now it’s time to do this for your self. And, don’t hesitate to do this for others. It feels really good to catch someone doing something right and express your appreciation to them.
Don’t think you’re abundant? Time to recognize you and everything are expressions of the one energy we call God, Spirit, Universe, and so forth. Look around. What exists and what continues to be created and expanded is amazing. You’re a part of it . . . the moment you agree to be . . . the moment you agree to receive . . . the moment you replace any doubt about deserving with understanding your birthright as an expression of Spirit.
Fueled by fears? Fear is another word for Expectation. This goes back to what I wrote above. What would you prefer to expect?
One reason so many people are turning to spiritual empowerment coaching is because they want to not just lift the veil of illusions, but get rid of them altogether. Which illusions? The ones promoted by so many that say we’re limited, we lack, we don’t deserve, it’s hard, accept less, and the list is too long and tedious to include here. Besides, the list is all false stories when you get right down to it; and no one repeats these stories to us as often as we do. Law of Attraction isn’t a buzz phrase; it’s a real principle at work in our lives.
What do you desire to be, to experience? If you find a way to become it at the inner level, you’re it. And then, you won’t be surprised when you experience it.
Manage Your Energy to Manage Your Manifestations online course starts 9/14/08--see http://www.freewebs.com/coach4lifebalance Joyce Shafer, L.E.C., is a Spiritual/Life Empowerment Coach (jls1422@yahoo.com). Get her free newsletter, take the quiz, get book discounts, and learn about her $200 first-month coaching special on her website. The link should open; please email Joyce if it doesn’t.
